From For Men: Why This Song Captivates Women and What You Can Learn From It
This is my favorite song by Bruno Mars right now:
Just the Way You Are
Oh, her eyes, her eyes, make the stars look like they’re not shining
Her hair, her hair, falls perfectly without her trying
She’s so beautiful, and I tell her every day
Yeah, I know, I know, when I compliment her she won’t believe me
And it’s so, it’s so, sad to think that she don’t see what I see
But every time she asks me do I look ok, I say
When I see your face, there’s not a thing that I would change
Cause you’re amazing, just the way you are
And when you smile, the whole world stops and stares for a while
Because girl you’re amazing, just the way you are(yeah)
Her lips, her lips, I could kiss them all day if she let me
Her laugh, her laugh, she hates but I think it’s so sexy
She’s so beautiful, and I tell her every day
Oh, you know, you know, you know, I’d never ask you to change
If perfect’s what you’re searching for then just stay the same
So, don’t even bother asking if you look ok
You know I’ll say
When I see your face, there’s not a thing that I would change
Cause you’re amazing, just the way you are
And when you smile, the whole world stops and stares for a while
Because girl you’re amazing, just the way you are
The way you are, the way you are
Girl you’re amazing, just the way you are
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Men, every woman wants to know that you love them just the way they are. Even the most beautiful woman has insecurities. You may be sending her the message that she is beautiful, but you are one person competing with a society that is telling her otherwise.
It’s no wonder, with airbrushed models everywhere and a capitalist society that preys on making women feel they “need” something more to be deemed beautiful. In this article, it says that “the cosmetic and toiletries industry is, worldwide, a $45 to $66 billion business and that American women spend an average of $12,000 annually on beauty products and grooming.”
Women are more critical than their significant others, by far. So gentlemen, it may seem repetitive and stating the obvious (from your perspective) when you tell us we are beautiful (you may think she already knows it) but let me tell you something true of all women:
We will never tire of hearing you think we are beautiful.
(It’s kinda like how men feel about someone sincerely telling them they are brilliant,amazing,successful,competent,respectable, or admirable. You can’t get enough of it!)
And… when you get more specific, it’s even more meaningful.
Here are some ways to jazz up and add specifics to the general idea:
- You look absolutely stunning in that dress.
- Have I ever told you when I come home, I look forward to seeing your smile? It’s like a reward, a ray of sunlight at the end of my day.
- Do you know you are my standard of beauty? All women pale in comparison to you.
- I can’t stop staring at you. You look breathtaking.
- I love that even when you’re not wearing makeup or getting dressed up, you still turn me on.
- I love the way you look when you just wake up, before you put your face on for the world, I get to see you, vulnerable, natural, beautiful in a way the magazines could never immitate.
- I wish you could see the version of you that I see, which to me is what is real. I see a captivating, tender, all together lovely woman who is oblivious to her own appeal.
- Do you know that when I walk out with you in public, I feel so proud to have you by my side? You make me look good baby.
- (when she dresses up) Wow. wow. Do we have to go out for date night? Can I just keep you all to myself? You look so amazing baby.
- You’re laughter is like music.
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Do you know that I think of you all day? And coming home to your beautiful smile is the highlight of my days.
- Girl, you don’t know what you do to me. I’m glad. Cuz if you did, you would know just how much you have upper hand. I’m enamored by you in every way.
- Your lips are so soft and plump and I just want to kiss them any chance I get.
- Your body is so soft and supple beautiful in every way. You don’t know how soothing it is just to be near you. You don’t know how comforting your touch is.
- I like the way you (add action) when you smile/laugh/poke fun/get mad/joke around.
- Sometimes I just look at you and just can’t believe you’re mine. What did I ever do to deserve such an amazingly beautiful women? You are beautiful inside and out.
Or, in the words of Bruno Mars:
When I see your face, there’s not a thing that I would change
Cause you’re amazing, just the way you are
For any women reading this who are offended that I would essentially offer guys “lines” to dish out to their significant others, don’t fret. Men already think these things. They just have a hard time expressing themselves in words sometimes. (unless they are the writer/English major types!)
